You know that feel of betrayal when you finally are allowed to bring a cat to your home, but then it would seem like your cat is bonding more with your roommate, your significant other, or with your parent who initially said they don’t want a cat in their house.
Cats, it turns out, play favorites – and they’re not afraid to show it. There’s a lot a factor as to what makes their favorite person their favorite person.
If you’re not your cat’s favorite
Cats have a lot of room in their hearts for love – it’s just that some of those rooms are bigger than the others. If you’re not your cat’s favorite, it doesn’t mean they don’t love you! Your kitty companion appreciates everything you do to keep them happy and healthy.
They might even get really sad when you’re away.
Depending on your cat’s preferences in humans, their favorite person could be the person who plays with them the most or it could be the chilliest person who they feel most secure around. Instinctively, cats are drawn to the people they feel would keep them safe and well taken care of.
When cats are in their kittenhood, around four to nine weeks old, they can be pretty fearless. This is their socialization period – the more they are exposed to different sounds, smells, and experiences, the more they’ll grow to well-adjusted, human-bonded cats.
Cats who have been with their caretakers since this period would most likely become their favorite person – but it isn’t always the case.
If you aren’t your cat’s favorite person
If you are, unfortunately not your cat’s favorite person, it’s nothing to worry about. Being your cat’s favorite person is not a goal worth achieving. It’s something that must come naturally. Cats can be very selective in when and how they want to receive affections.
If you keep showering your cat with love and affection when they don’t want it, it could be detrimental to your relationship. It is better to accept that your cat just has a softer spot in their hearts for someone else.
Learning how your cat communicates is one of the best ways to improve your relationship with your cats. Cats have a secret language with their humans – the more you spend time with them and get to know them, the better you will be at understanding each other.
As long as you take care of your cat and you build on your relationship, rest assured that you are loved back. Every cat is unique – their personalities, behaviors, preferences, and tendencies can vary so much – even from their littermates. Maybe your cat is just the sort who shows their love towards you at a distance – not all cats are the snuggling kind. After all, being your cat’s favorite doesn’t always mean your cat will want much physical touching from you.
However, if you do sense that your cat is acting stranger than normal, it is best to consult your vet as there could be something wrong.
Am I my cat’s favorite person?
The best way to answer if you are your cat’s favorite is to ask yourself “who is my cat, and what is their love language?” Every cat is different, but some loving behaviors are common to a lot of cats that you may have missed.
Here are some of them:
- They treat you like mama cat. The first being your cat ever loved is their mama cat. When they were very young, they would knead on their moms before they nurse. If your cat does this to you, then they love you just as much as they loved mama cat.
- They take care of you. If you’ve ever been subject to a licking session or have received your share of your cat’s hunt, then yes, they do love you. Cats think they are responsible for taking care of you and this is their way to do it.
Why does my cat only like one person?
While most cats have a lot of room in their hearts, some cats have those rooms locked tight with fear. This is especially common to cats who were not able to fully take advantage of their socialization period. Strays, for example, may find it overwhelming to have to trust more than one person.
It could also be the humans. Cats have preference over the kind of human they like to be around with the most – maybe they like the quiet ones, or maybe they like the energetic and lively ones, it depends on your cat.
Why do cats like me so much?
Cats can sense people’s energies. They might seem aloof, but in reality, cats are very sensitive. If your cats can sense that you are a person that they can trust, then that is most likely the reason why they like you so much and want to be around you. There are many stories about cats who choose their humans – often times, this is the best way to bring a cat into your life as you’ve already got a strong bond from the get go.
While being your cat’s favorite is surely a desirable thing, it’s not really what’s most important. The center of focus should be the relationship you build with your cat. Learn how they communicate with you, observe what they like, don’t like, and what they need, and soon enough, you’ll be the cat’s whiskers!
Quick questions answered
Not always, but often cats do have a favorite person. Cats do have plenty of love to share with multiple people though, so no worries even you aren’t the number one favorite person in your cats’ life. Who the favorite person is depending on various reasons.
Cats often imprint on one person, and that might be very clear if you live in a household with multiple people. Every individual cat has its own personality, and way to show if it imprinted on a specific person or not.
Cats often pick a favorite person. Their favorite might not be a person though, and they might therefore not necessarily have picked a favorite person. If the cat is an indoor cat without to many other cats, it probably has imprinted a person though.